It just....IS

I was ready to give up....this whole dating thing wasn't going my way.  I was meeting people, some I even thought had the possibility of becoming someone important in our lives, but it wasn't happening.  I decided to do what all of my friends were suggesting...just date and have fun, stop looking for the next love of my life.

The funny thing is, when I stopped looking I found him. His name is Victor.

I saw this man's profile and thought "Woah! He's new on here and CUTE!"  Now, my experience had been that anyone I was interested in was not interested in me, BUT, I was in a sassy mood that day so I took a chance.....I sent him a quick note...."Can I just say....WOW! ....Nuff said....."  You see, this guy was attractive and a bodybuilder, WAY out of my comfort zone.  I never imagined that he would respond to me....but he did....in all of three minutes!  We spent that whole day messaging back and forth.  We messaged and texted for about a week and a half, and he kept saying that he'd like to meet me but then would back off.  Finally one day I asked if he really wanted to meet me, he sounded surprised and said emphatically "Yes!"  I told him that he had better ask me out then....and he did....

We met for a drink (and when I say drink I mean diet cokes, LOL!) on a Sunday afternoon, went for a short walk and then (hold on to your seats) went to Walmart because I had errands to do.  Romantic, huh?  On the way back to his place he looked at me and asked "So, what are the chances of me seeing you again?" Wait!  Did he just ask me that?  THAT'S a first!  My response?  "What are the chances you'd LIKE to see me again?"  His reply "100%, that's why I asked!"

The next day his car broke down so I gave him a ride to the gym, the day after that he went with me to do errands again (I know, so very romantic, but hey....I am an only parent of four and I have to get my errands done while they are in school!) and the next day, Dec. 5th, he went with me to the Dells to get a kitten.  We talked the whole time.  It was Tucker's birthday and I broke the biggest rule I had made for myself when it came to dating (not introducing anyone to my kids until I knew they were going to stick around)....I invited him over for dinner.

It got late and I didn't want to leave the kids to take him home, so he slept on my couch that night.....and he never went back home.  Wait!  What?!?  Did she just say that?  Yep, I did.  It wasn't exactly what either one of us expected to happen, but it just....did.  I have tried to rationalize it and explain it, but the best I can come up with is: It just....IS.  We just happened.  It...just...feels...right...

Wanna know the crazy thing about this?  The day we first started talking was Nov. 23rd, Brian's birthday and the day he came and stayed (the day we are considering our "anniversary") was Dec. 5th, which was the same day Brian and I started dating so many years ago....Coincidence?  I don't think so.  I had always believed that Brian would hand pick the right man for his family, and the more I get to know Victor the more I realize that if he and Brian had met they would have been really good friends.  That comforts me.  I truly believe that he was Brian's birthday gift to me.

Time will tell if this is something that will last a lifetime, but for now it is good....no, it is better than good....it is pretty awesome.